These days, everyone says they want an original wedding.
But let’s be honest — in reality?
It often ends up in a race to the same old boho décor, teepees, and flowy dresses we’ve seen a thousand times.
But here’s the thing.
The Screaming Chair exists for one reason:
To remind you that your wedding doesn’t need to look like an Instagram moodboard.
It just needs to look like you.
So here it is —
7 ways to break the mold, ditch the checklist, and build a wedding that truly reflects who you are.
Even if (especially if) Aunt Karen hates it.
7 tips for a wedding that feels like you
1. Be ruthless with all the advice you’ll get
Everyone has an opinion about your wedding.
Family, friends, blogs, stationery designers, your neighbour’s dog…
But here’s the truth:
It’s not their day. It’s yours.
Listen, of course.
But never feel like you have to follow.
If it doesn’t click — toss it.
Make space for your own ideas.
Even (especially) if they don’t fit in any box.
2. Your wedding doesn’t need a military schedule
Sure, having a timeline helps avoid chaos.
But don’t let it cage you in.
You feel like taking a break halfway through the day to grab a drink, just the two of you?
Do it.
A wedding that breathes — one that flows — is often way more beautiful than a perfectly timed machine.
Let your wedding breathe — make it your own.
3. The dress, the suit, the outfit — wear what feels like you
Don’t feel like wearing white? Cool.
A deep red velvet suit? Hell yes.
Sneakers? Why not slippers while you’re at it.
Your clothes should make you feel powerful, beautiful, alive.
Not just fit some outdated wedding fantasy.
The perfect look is the one where you feel at home — in your skin, in your style, in your story.
4. Invite the people who truly love you. The rest? Let it go.
This one’s hard. But it’s freeing:
You don’t have to invite everyone.
An intimate wedding isn’t a sad wedding — it’s a strong one.
Choose the people who matter.
The ones who respect your love, your choices, your energy.
5. A wedding can be rock, soft, loud or quiet — as long as it’s you
There are a thousand ways to get married.
On top of a mountain, in a garden, in a barn, at home, in a restaurant, in Bangkok, or under the rain.
It’s not about the setting — it’s about the meaning you give it.
6. You can skip traditions. Seriously.
No cocktail hour? No bouquet toss? No speeches?
Totally fine.
You don’t have to do anything that feels awkward or meaningless.
Skipping it won’t make your wedding less real — just more honest.
7. Don’t try to be original. Just be real.
The irony of “original weddings”?
The harder you try to stand out… the more you end up copying others who tried to stand out.
So what if you stopped trying?
What if you started from you — your story, your rhythm, your joy?
That’s what makes a wedding truly original.
🎁 Bonus — 3 questions to keep you on track
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Are we doing this because it feels like us — or just because “that’s how it’s done”?
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Does this excite us… or stress us out?
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Will this memory make us smile in 10 years?
Conclusion: A free wedding is a happy wedding
You’ve got nothing to prove.
Not to your family.
Not to Instagram.
A wedding that feels like you is a wedding that sets you free.
That brings you back to who you really are.
And if that’s what you’re after — chances are, we’ll get along just fine.
I don’t photograph checklists.
I photograph people who are real, alive, in love.
That’s what The Screaming Chair is all about:
Making chairs scream, shutting down expectations, and telling stories that go against the flow.